The secret diary of a sex addict online
Experts will tell you that the structure of your brain becomes altered through any addiction – the same with this process addiction.’ Photographs: Dara Mac Dónaill ‘A moment comes for every addict when the consequences are so great or the pain is so bad that the addict admits life is out of control because of his or her sexual behaviour.” These are the opening lines of Patrick Carnes’s seminal work on sexual addiction, , which is now in its third edition.For me, there had been several warnings over two decades that my behaviour was going to lead me into difficulty.We need to experience the truth, and the truth is we are not alone.
‘There is help out there, but you have to work hard at it.Only a few weeks ago the consequences became so incredibly great and the pain so incredibly bad that the only solution I could come up with was to take my own life.According to Carnes, 17 per cent of sex addicts have attempted suicide; 72 per cent have thought about it.While addiction is addiction, there are gender as well as age patterns that impact various addictions.
Society typically attributes sex addiction, work and gambling to men, and food and money problems to women. Addiction is addiction; it is no respecter of gender.As the hopelessness grows, we may talk to our sponsors or friends in AA or NA and share a bit of those secrets.